It's Only Words

Sometimes you find yourself in front of a screen, while your mind is racing and you have so much to say but have absolutely no idea how to put it across. You find your heart pounding and your pulse racing and one singular question pops up into your head.
What is love?

Is it sacrifice? Is it making someone happy? Is it just an emotion? Which all humans at some point in their lives have to experience or is it just a waste of time?

Its truly a debatable topic, and while couples around the world celebrate every single moment they spend with each other, we still have those fairly unhappy people wondering whether they’re with the right person or not.

Now before we get to love, lets discuss what is happiness.

As defined by a popular online dictionary, “Happiness, gladness or joy is a mental or emotional state of well-being defined by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy”

All of us have definitely experienced happiness sometime or the other in our lives. It’s causes ranging from personal satisfaction to exterior things such as materialist gifts and pleasure. But one thing constant about this state, is that it’s very temporary. Shopping makes you happy for a day while getting selected into your favorite university might extend that happiness to a week or a month. But then again, that’s the fine line between happiness and bliss, but that’s a topic for a different time.
I believe humans have a tendency of regulating love. They filter out their emotions based on what they think is needed and can be truly expressed to their partners. As said by a very famous author, “We Accept The Love We Think We Deserve” which according to me is one of the most true quotes out there. Humans as a species love undervaluing themselves, and blame others when they might be the cause of their own misfortunes and state.

This 4 letter word, on the mouth of all those lovebirds out there wanting to settle down with their partners, might be the most overused word in the history of mankind.

Do you truly get happiness when you try to make them happy? If yes, do you still get pissed when your efforts are given no value?
Do you entertain all the nuances and whims of your partners expecting there to be a better day when they might not have any? If yes, have you still seen the light of that day?

Do you feel elated one second and downtrodden and sad the other? If yes, have you ever asked yourself why?

Its not about loving the person you’re with. Its about knowing that love is good for you. Its about knowing that the love you are getting is the love you deserve. Its about knowing that what you get might always be a little less than what you offer, and with you being at peace with that scenario.

Love is and can be the most beautiful thing on this planet. It makes us want to be better people, it makes us want to do great things for the people you love, pushing our boundaries and making us do things we never thought we could.

It’s a very true and basic concept, but as the Bee Gees said and said well, “Its only words, & words are all I have, to take your heart away.”

Sandeep Telang
sandeep.telang@northpointindia.com
PGP MR 2015-16

Northpoint Centre of Learning

Wrath of the Feminazi

I have a fair idea that the title sounds like Radio GaGa and can be summed up as 'the agitation of the XY chromosome' and before I get any further with what I have to say, a dozen girls might have already decided that I am a misogynist who deserves death for his obscene odes, but as a man who represents this generation I'm going to go ahead and say what I want to, so you might as well, read on.

Feminism empowers women and is necessary in a society that always favours men but it is a tool that can be used either way.

Yes, you are stronger than I am and probably better in many other things ,but that doesn't mean we are drained batteries without no value.

So who or what exactly is a Feminazi?

Feminazis relate feminism to things that don't make sense. Feminazi is a viral feeling.

The girl who leaves her loyal boyfriend for someone else because she knows she is attractive,  and has many other choices or perhaps,  the lady who says, "All men only want sex", without thinking  about stereotyping men  and ironically raising a voice against men who stereotype women as a sexual requirement . Or the girl who says, "You don't have to hold the door open for me just because I'm a girl!" to a guy who is just showing some courtesy - are all different shades of feminazi.

I AM proud of all women, right from Savitribai Phule to Marian Keyes, who rose against all odds and they are the reason why we are at this point in time where gender is no more a ground for discrimination, where there is a lot of pride in women about who they are and no prejudice in men for the same reason.

But women of the 21st century, women who get inspired by campaigns like Deepika Padukone's 'My Choice' video,  are definitely not in line with what feminism stands for.

Of course there are women who understand this and choose to be sensible about it and personally, I've been fortunate enough to have a few , I’m sure there are many who feel the same way. As for the rest of them, I don't see what makes them the undesirable people they are. They get offended easily; perhaps they see every kind gesture and a casual help through a different spectacle and translate it into "He thinks I'm weak!" Perhaps there are a million reasons to why they see me paying for our round of coffees as a sign of my dominance and their weakness. All I'm saying is let's just fix this - together.

Yes, you are independent but when you are living in a society with other people, accepting a little help is never harmful. Get. It. Straight.

After all this, if you are still in your feminazi shoes, whining about something that slipped from my pen and hit you hard, good. You deserve some.

Mihir Amrite 
PGP Marcomm 2015-16

 mihir.amrite@northpointindia.com

Northpoint Centre of Learning